Category Archives: Bullying

Remember Bullying Programs Were Unsuccessful

Texas school shooter’s father suspects Bullying caused him to snap

When Bullying school programs began, I made the statement that these would never be successful, because they all addressed Child on Child Bullying only.  In all my years experience, serious Bullying always involved at least one adult, and most times, it involved multiple adults, with at least one or more being teachers or coaches.
Robert StrongBow

A 17-year-old student accused of fatally shooting 10 people at a Texas high school should be seen as a “victim” because he may have recently been bullied, causing him to lash out, his father said.

In a phone interview over the weekend with Greece’s Antenna TV, Antonios Pagourtzis said he wished he could have stopped the killing Friday at Santa Fe High School.  His voice cracked as he described how he told police to let him inside the school so his son, Dimitrios Pagourtzis, could kill him instead.  He said he suspects his son was under pressure, perhaps due to bullying.

“Something must have happened now, this last week,” he told the station.  “Somebody probably came and hurt him, and since he was a solid boy, I don’t know what could have happened.  I can’t say what happened.  All I can say is what I suspect as a father.”

The suspect’s attorney, Nicholas Poehl, has said he is investigating whether his client endured any “teacher-on-student” bullying after reading reports of the teen being mistreated by football coaches.  The school district issued a statement saying it investigated the accusations and “confirmed that these reports were untrue.”

The elder Pagourtzis said his son took a legally owned shotgun and handgun from his closet before leaving for school that day.  The teen didn’t own firearms of his own, he said.

“My son, to me, is not a criminal, he’s a victim,” he said.  “The kid didn’t own guns, I owned guns.”

Dimitrios Pagourtzis is being held in the Galveston County jail on capital murder charges. Authorities say eight students and two teachers were killed in the attack, and 13 others wounded.

Antonios Pagourtzis said his son never displayed any signs that he would be capable of such violence, explaining that he didn’t fight with others, didn’t drink alcohol and seemed to enjoy healthy pursuits such as working out.

“He pulled the trigger but he is not this person,” he said.  “It is like we see in the movies when someone gets into his body and does things that are not done.  It’s not possible in one day for the child to have changed so much.”

He said that after the teen had been taken into custody, he and his wife were allowed to visit him for 15-20 minutes.

“I saw the child.  I didn’t see a child who is a murderer.  A pure child, a child who was ashamed to look me in the face,” his father said.  “He was thinking of his sisters, how his sisters will be able to get about.  He said he loves me, he told his mother he loves her and he will try to be strong to help us cope.”

He said his son had told him he had acted on his own, and had spared “the kids who were the good kids so they can tell his story.”

Human Trafficking Awareness

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HELP IS AVAILABLE!

Latest trends in U.S. Child Sex Trafficking

Today we are excited to share our newest research.  Survivors have graciously allowed us to hear their stories, and in order for us all to be a part of the solution, we’re excited to share their stories with you.

Explore the Findings

Participants’ age of entry into the life

  • Youngest age of entry was less than 1-year-old
  • One in six were under the age of 12
  • Most frequently reported age is 15

Two themes in U.S. child sex trafficking emerged from this report:

  1. Technology is playing an increasing role in grooming and controlling victims of child sex trafficking.  75% of victims who entered the life in the past decade were advertised online.
  2. Less familiar forms of child trafficking, including those trafficked by family members or without a clear trafficker, are emerging.  80% of all victims under 10 were trafficked by a family member.

Without survivor input, our anti-trafficking movement risks wasting time and resources — and most importantly, endangering children.  We are truly grateful to all of the organizations and survivors that shared their stories and made this work possible.

Today is #HumanTraffickingAwarenessDay, and our research also showed that 2 out of 3 survivors never saw a help resource during their abuse.  You can change that by sharing the Human Trafficking hotline today everywhere you have a community on social media.

Spread The Word

“Survivor insights keep us grounded in the reality and complexity of their experience so that the best interventions can be developed to defend children from sexual abuse.”
Brooke Istook, Director of Strategy & Operations

Where Were You

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America The Beautiful

September 11, 2001

I will never forget….

We were working at Raytheon, of all places, and the week had started well.  But then every day started well, but none had ever ended the way that day did….

Although a year and a half before when I sat with my Niece and Mother at that 15+foot conference table filled with medical professionals, and they continued to counsel me with their understanding looks and consoling words, and even asking permission to go to a first name basis, as they continued to return to their “evidence” that my Son was no longer alive.  I should let these important people go to help others, that were living human beings.

That day, like this day, I realized those “Medical Professionals” were not the “Good Guys”, wearing white hats, and certainly not Friends of The Lone Ranger, just like these evil humans that did this evil thing to Our Friends and Neighbors.  Which in turn, cost us more than even that, so many of Our Protectors that would never walk in their door after work….

What is wrong with people.

How can anyone delight in seeing, much less hurting someone.

The day was Tuesday, and it was a great day.  At least until the guards were suddenly there, with LOADED M-16s no less….

After a while they brought us a television, and our day went to hell in a handbasket, as we watched Our America The Beautiful as she was attacked.

Later, they asked if we would like to go home to be with Our Families, and everyone of us had seen that these guys who were Our Friends never looked away from that television, just like us, except to cover when tears would begin to fall as rain.  So, it was easy to say “ah we might be able to get a little work in later”, which startled them for only a second, and then we cried together.

But I do know one thing for sure, because we all said it that day:

“I BLEED RED, WHITE, AND BLUE!!!!”

Lies And The Hypocrite’s Oath

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My Brother’s Keeper

Playing GOD While Killing Your Neighbor

I turned the knob and the door cracked open, suddenly the all too familiar smell was all around me, and on me.  As I finished opening the door, the smell of my 3rd son drew closer around me, holding to me tightly.

The next afternoon I turned the knob, and as I opened the door and held it, my Mother looked  into my eyes and nodded, then my Niece did also, as they proceeded into the big room, moving to the chairs I had marked with my eyes.

The table was filled with gamblers, all holding the winning hand, including the nurse at the far end of the table; she knew her part by heart, and in fact was certain of an academy award, until she looked into the eyes she knew so well….

These people had lied to me since the day before, and evidently thought we were dumb as dirt.  Never in my life had I ever imagined the day when the people I respected so much would instead prove to be as low as the most evil criminals.

I listened as each one at the table had their say, then, while slowly standing up, I looked from one, to the next in turn all around the table.  I explained the difference in  “no activity” with a swollen head, and a “brain stem test”, then I looked into each set of eyes, and said NO ONE WILL BE TURNING MY SON’S VENTILATOR OFF TODAY, NOR EVER.

My Brother called me 3 years ago, and told me to hurry.  When I got to the place, he met me at the door, and we went to the young Lady’s room.

Nurses were all standing around staring at the relative, as my Brother asked my opinion.  I said heroin????  NO WAY, maybe PCP, but you remember when I was in the hospital and went out of my head 2 different times????  He said that’s why I called you.

When I said, “considering how hard she fell when she was blind-sided, I would have to believe bone marrow was in her system and going to her brain, but apparently she didn’t break nothing”.  The nurses looked like I had slapped them.

These people failed to X-Ray this young Lady, missed a broken hip, then left the illicit drugs misdiagnosis on her record to cover their incompetence.  The sad part of this is that she had been in the hospital for nearly 3 full days.

My Little Brother was the victim of a poorly trained  employee at Insurance Market Place.  We got their attention by contacting Our Elected Officials.

However, while filing an appeal, I had to rush My Brother to the ER. Later he was diagnosed with pancreatitis, but sent home without a Doctor doing anything.

To say he was in agony, is like saying a blow torch is warm, because Our Circle on Google had told me so.  After over a month, we won his appeal, and he was checked into Parkland Hospital, where he stayed for 4 days then released.

All this time He has been losing weight, and still hurting badly almost all the time.

This week I went with him to his appointments, before Chemo, and for whatever reason, between our questions, it fell out of these people’s mouth that he hasn’t been getting any real treatment due to the drugs in his system.

I believe my Brother got their attention by telling them between Parkland Hospital and Insurance Market Place, they were responsible for him losing nearly 40 lbs and everything else, plus knowing the pain he was in, yet not prescribing him anything.

But now I don’t mind telling everyone that I got my Brother the medicine for pain.  I am unable to take anything like this and muscle relaxers, so I didn’t know….

I’m sorry Little Brother, and I have to admit this to all of you, I knew how he was hurting, and I knew his stress and depression first hand, yet I made him even more miserable because I kept thinking I was going to go wake him up one day and he wasn’t going to wake up.

SO, this is for all of you….

First, I checked if anything had turned up on the VA Hospital Drug Thefts, and oddly enough nothing has been posted since roughly the end of May.

BUT, I did come across some very interesting facts:

Doctors and Nurses are more likely than other occupations to form a substance addiction.

Studies suggest that Medical Professionals are more likely to misuse prescription drugs than their patients.

Substance Abuse is grossly unreported in medical community by an estimated 50% and most likely much higher.

*15% of all physicians and nurses will experience substance abuse issues, although this number could quiet possibly be as much as 50% higher

**20% of all physicians and nurses will experience substance abuse issues, although this number could quiet possibly be more than 50% higher

*   Results indicated serious engine filtering
** Adjusted engine results

On Our Lonely Minds

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You have one ride in this game, sit on the side-lines or you can dance….

Happy Birthday

Although by now, I figure you might have noticed at least one or two of your old friends giving you “the look”, then when you all made eye contact, surely there was hidden “eye rolling” and “head shaking”.

But I would bet you any amount of Mammon, or even those Gold, Stairway-To-Heaven Bricks, that you are more than a little happy there are no short, picnic length, excursion rides on the ferry today (which is now yesterday).

You never imagined the remote possibility of this post even being started, much less my eyes darting anxiously toward that blue.. Publish Button.

The day finally came that we believe we were, we must have been adopted.

But, each set of north-sider, Pharisee eyes and ears, would have had no choice, but to look upon and hear my words.

AND, I DO MEAN EVERY ONE OF YOU….  The good part is that I don’t believe he will be too hard on you, but then, who am I to say….