Category Archives: Parenting

Son: Mom Why Us?

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Rebecca Ann Bell

Son of woman charged in Wake Forest
Child Abuse case: ‘We never had a
stable home’

WAKE FOREST, NC  –  Two Wake Forest parents were charged with child abuse causing serious physical injury, arrest records show.

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Michael Daniel Bell

Records state Michael Daniel Bell and Rebecca Ann Bell, of Washhouse Lane in Wake Forest, failed to enroll at least one child in school, abused at least one child and exposed a child to domestic violence and let at least one child live in a condemned home for a week.

The home that was condemned had no electricity and no running water and had holes in the ceilings, exposed nails in the floor and mold and raw meat throughout the house, according to warrants.

According to the couple’s Facebook page, they have nine children.

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Matthew Shirely, 21, and his Family.

Rebecca Bell’s oldest son, 21-year-old Matthew Shirely, lives in Nevada and said that Michael Bell abused him and his siblings for years.

“You know, just getting like smacked around to like actual fistfights between me and my stepdad,” he said.

Shirely said his family lived in Nevada prior to living in North Carolina, where Rebecca Bell moved to get back together with Michael.

“Growing up, none of my siblings, me included, we never had a stable home.  We bounced around.  Off the top of my head, I could probably give you around anywhere from 16 to 20 addresses we’ve lived at,” Shirely said.

Shirely said he feels helpless being across the country while 10 of his siblings are split up in foster care.

“You know, they’ve gone through it in the past.  They went through it when I was there.  I went through it when I was with them, and it hurts knowing my siblings, like I’m not there to do anything about it,” he said.

A father himself, Shirely said he doesn’t understand how his mother could watch her children suffer.

“She’s seen the fights, she’s seen abuse, she’s seen the way Mike treats the kids, and it just amazes me someone could watch their kids go through that and not want something better,” he said.

Michael Bell was charged in February with sexual exploitation of a minor

Records stated he possessed three photos of child pornography: an infant girl, a girl about 6 years old and a girl about 7 to 10 years old.

Michael Bell and Rebecca Bell were also charged with contributing to the delinquency of a juvenile.

The Empty Chair At The Table

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Arlington National Cemetery, where so many are buried that gave their lives for Our Country.

We will never forget

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In the U.S., people wear the red poppy on Memorial Day to honor those who died trying to protect Our Country.

This is for all those that answered the Call of Duty for Our Great Country, America the Beautiful, the Home of the Brave and the Free, who gave all and didn’t get the chance to bring up their children, or grow old with their spouses, or have careers.

The flag shouldn’t stay at half-staff all day

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Today we honor the many people that have given their lives defending Our Country.

Federal guidelines say the flag should be displayed at half-staff only until noon, then go up to full-staff until sundown.

Day Care Co-Owner Charged In Baby’s Death

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#HotVehicles Are Not #BabySitters

Baby dies after being left in day care van
for hours

JACKSONVILLE, FL  –  After a 4-month-old baby found unconscious Wednesday afternoon in a van at a Westside day care died, the co-owner of the center was arrested, the Jacksonville Sheriff’s Office said.

Darryl Ewing, 56, was booked into the Duval County jail at 8:18 p.m. on a charge of child neglect, according to online jail records.

Police said the infant girl was found still in a child safety seat inside the van at Ewing’s Love and Hope Preschool on Lenox Avenue about 1 p.m, nearly five hours after the vehicle used to pick up children was parked out front.

Jacksonville firefighters tried to revive the baby and took her to Wolfson Children’s Hospital, but the child could not be saved.

“Tragically, today a family has just been notified of the gut-wrenching loss of their precious baby girl,” Department of Children and Families Secretary Chad Poppell said.  “DCF immediately opened a joint child death and child care licensing investigation in coordination with law enforcement.  We will continue to support this family as they mourn the loss of their baby girl.”

Police said the center cares for about 14 children and no other children were injured.

Investigators said they learned Darryl Ewing was the driver of the day care van that picked up the infant and other children earlier Wednesday morning and no other employees were on the van.  According to detectives, the van arrived at the day care about 8:25 a.m., and children were off-loaded and taken into the center.

Investigators said Darryl Ewing then parked the van in front of the day care and left the vehicle unattended with the 4-month-old still strapped in her car seat in the third row of the van.

At 1:03 p.m., according to the Sheriff’s Office, the infant’s mother called to make after-school arrangements for all of her children and it was discovered the baby had never been checked into the day care.  Police said day care employees went to the van and discovered the infant still strapped in her child seat, unresponsive, and called emergency services.

Throughout the afternoon, the building was surrounded by police tape, officers, evidence technicians and homicide detectives, including the JSO chief of investigations.

According to the Sheriff’s Office, further investigation revealed that Darryl Ewing was responsible for maintaining a separate driver’s log documenting all children that are placed onto the van, which was separate from the parental log signed by parents. Detectives viewed the driver’s log, which they said showed Darryl Ewing had logged in two of the infant’s siblings, but not the infant.

Police said they learned, based on interviews with other day care center employees, that it is the van driver’s responsibility to check and make sure children are offloaded from the van at the day care center.

“It was determined the suspect’s actions (and lack thereof) failed to provide the victim with the necessary supervision and provide services to protect the victim’s physical health, all which was essential to the victim’s well-being and contributed to the death of the victim,” the Sheriff’s Office said in a news release.

According to the Sheriff’s Office, Darryl Ewing refused to talk with detectives when he was taken to the police station to be interviewed and that’s when he was arrested.  Police identified him as the co-owner of the day care center, though the day care’s website lists Darryl Ewing as the director.

Duval County jail records show he has been arrested at least four previous times.

The state said will be immediately suspending the day care center’s license because it wasn’t aware children were being transported.

While the center has a valid license with DCF since 2016 and inspectors have not found any Class I violations in its quarterly inspections, the agency said it didn’t know the day care center was transporting children, so it never monitored transportation standards.

The state said parents have already been contacted to let them know the center’s license is being pulled.

The other owner of the business, Gloryian Ewing was arrested 18 months ago on two counts of child abuse.  While those charges involved her own teenage children — police said they were beaten with an extension cord — she was arrested at the day care center in December 2017.

After Gloryian Ewing, 51, completed a pretrial intervention, the charges were dropped.

DCF records show the center’s license was not affected by the owner’s legal troubles.  The center had no violations in its last three quarterly inspections by the DCF — most recently on April 15.

The last time inspectors found any issues at the facility was last July when the report noted a lack of documentation of worker training and outdoor equipment, and field trip forms were not available for review.  Since the center has been open, the facility has received two Class II and 13 Class II violations.

News4Jax meteorologists estimated that the temperature inside an enclosed vehicle parked in the sun at midday Wednesday could have reached 123 degrees.

A woman who lives in the neighborhood didn’t want to give her name but said her children used to attend this day care center and her heart breaks for the baby’s family.

“Luckily they were grade-school age, but they were left on that same day care van,” the woman told News4Jax.  “It’s sad. I just wish that day care was shut down.  It really, it’s not the best day care.”

Another woman who works at a different child care center calls it a tragedy.

“It’s just heartbreaking right now to know that a child has lost its life,” Lisa Brown said. “Just coming to day care and being taken care of and not returning home.  I think about my own grandkids.”

The Sheriff’s Office and DCF continue to investigate the infant’s death.

A Strong Successful Family

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Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.

Building & Maintaining A Good Family

Building a Good Family

There are basic qualities and values needed to have and maintain a good family.   These qualities and values are:

  • Love
  • Honor, always truth and loyalty
  • Mutual Respect
  • Kindness
  • Communication
  • Consideration
  • Duty
  • Responsibility

The Future of this world

Children are the future of this world.  As a good parent it is your responsibility to teach your children from birth, the above qualities and values, as these are handed down from generation-to-generation, and prepares them to be good family members, good friends, good neighbors, good employees, good leaders, and good citizens.

Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.  As your child grows, regular family quality time strengthens trust and mutual respect, forging a stronger family bond, where communication grows easier, and good memories are more easily made.

Maintaining A Good Family

The five “L’s” of a good, strong, family:

  1. Love is at the heart of the family.  All humans have the need to love and to be loved; the family is normally the place where love is expressed.  Love is the close personal blending of physical and mental togetherness.  It includes privacy, intimacy, sharing, belonging, and caring.  The atmosphere of real love is one of honesty, understanding, patience, and forgiveness.  Such love does not happen automatically; it requires constant daily effort by each family member.  Loving families share activities and express a great deal of gratitude for one another. Love takes time, affection, and a positive attitude.
  2. Learning – Families are where we learn values, skills, and behavior.  Strong families manage and control their learning experiences.  They establish a pattern of home life.  They select appropriate television programs.  They guide their children into the world outside the home.  They do not let social forces rule their family life.  They involve themselves in neighborhood, school, government, church, and business in ways that support their family values.  Strong families teach by example and learn through experience as they explain and execute their values.
  3. Loyalty – Strong families have a sense of loyalty and devotion toward family members.  The family sticks together.  They stand by each other during times of trouble.  They stand up for each other when attacked by someone outside the family.  Loyalty builds through sickness and health, want and good fortune, failure and success, and all the things the family faces.  The family is a place of shelter for individual family members.  In times of personal success or defeat, the family becomes a cheering section or a mourning bench.  They also learn a sense of give and take in the family, which helps prepare them for the necessary negotiations in other relationships.
  4. Laughter is good family medicine.  Humor is an escape valve for family tension. Through laughter we learn to see ourselves honestly and objectively.  Building a strong family is serious business, but if taken too seriously, family life can become very tense.  Laughter balances our efforts and gives us a realistic view of things.  To be helpful, family laughter must be positive in nature.  Laughing together builds up a family.  Laughing at each other divides a family.  Families that learn to use laughter in a positive way can release tensions, gain a clearer view, and bond relationships.
  5. Leadership is essential.  Family members, usually the adults, must assume responsibility for leading the family.  If no one accepts this vital role, the family will weaken.  Each family needs its own special set of rules and guidelines.  These rules are based on the family members’ greatest understanding of one another. The guidelines pass along from the adults to the children by example, with firmness and fairness.  Strong families can work together to establish their way of life, allowing children to have a voice in decision making and enforcing rules. However, in the initial stages and in times of crisis, adult family members must get the family to work together.

Where Are Your Children?

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#HotVehicles Are Not #BabySitters

#HotVehicles are not #BabySitters

In 2018, 51 Children died from heatstroke in a hot, locked vehicle.

I think everyone will agree that too many Children have lost their lives in HOT CARS.

The average number of U.S. child vehicular heat stroke deaths is 38 per year. (one every 9 days)

Eighty‐eight percent (88%) of children who have died from vehicular heat stroke are age 3 and younger.

Fifty‐four percent (54%) of heat stroke deaths in vehicles involve children age one and younger.

See a child alone in a car?  Get involved!  Call 911 ASAP#HeatstrokeKills #LookBeforeYouLock

The summer of 2016, Blair Corbett, Founder of Ark of Hope for Children, and I put our heads together and came up with an effective way to slow, and hopefully stop this killer of Our Children.

  1. Share this with everyone
  2. Use and share Our Hashtag: #HotVehicles are not #BabySitters
  3. Set a “TASK” with alarm in smartphone every time you drive Child/Children, set alarm 10-30 minutes early before arrival at destination to drop off Child/Children (depending on distance).
  4. DO NOT TURN OFF ALARM UNTIL CHILD/CHILDREN ARE DROPPED OFF, CONTINUE TO HIT SLEEPER, SET AT 5 MINUTES, UNTIL TASK IS COMPLETED.

NOT IN MY WORLD!!!! uses kidsandcars.org because we have found these great people go the extra mile to help and they have great resources.  Here is their Heatstroke Fact Sheet.

The difference between life or death is minutes in a hot car.  #HeatstrokeKills #LookBeforeYouLock