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A Strong Successful Family

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Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.

Building & Maintaining A Good Family

Building a Good Family

There are basic qualities and values needed to have and maintain a good family.   These qualities and values are:

  • Love
  • Honor, always truth and loyalty
  • Mutual Respect
  • Kindness
  • Communication
  • Consideration
  • Duty
  • Responsibility

The Future of this world

Children are the future of this world.  As a good parent it is your responsibility to teach your children from birth, the above qualities and values, as these are handed down from generation-to-generation, and prepares them to be good family members, good friends, good neighbors, good employees, good leaders, and good citizens.

Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.  As your child grows, regular family quality time strengthens trust and mutual respect, forging a stronger family bond, where communication grows easier, and good memories are more easily made.

Maintaining A Good Family

The five “L’s” of a good, strong, family:

  1. Love is at the heart of the family.  All humans have the need to love and to be loved; the family is normally the place where love is expressed.  Love is the close personal blending of physical and mental togetherness.  It includes privacy, intimacy, sharing, belonging, and caring.  The atmosphere of real love is one of honesty, understanding, patience, and forgiveness.  Such love does not happen automatically; it requires constant daily effort by each family member.  Loving families share activities and express a great deal of gratitude for one another. Love takes time, affection, and a positive attitude.
  2. Learning – Families are where we learn values, skills, and behavior.  Strong families manage and control their learning experiences.  They establish a pattern of home life.  They select appropriate television programs.  They guide their children into the world outside the home.  They do not let social forces rule their family life.  They involve themselves in neighborhood, school, government, church, and business in ways that support their family values.  Strong families teach by example and learn through experience as they explain and execute their values.
  3. Loyalty – Strong families have a sense of loyalty and devotion toward family members.  The family sticks together.  They stand by each other during times of trouble.  They stand up for each other when attacked by someone outside the family.  Loyalty builds through sickness and health, want and good fortune, failure and success, and all the things the family faces.  The family is a place of shelter for individual family members.  In times of personal success or defeat, the family becomes a cheering section or a mourning bench.  They also learn a sense of give and take in the family, which helps prepare them for the necessary negotiations in other relationships.
  4. Laughter is good family medicine.  Humor is an escape valve for family tension. Through laughter we learn to see ourselves honestly and objectively.  Building a strong family is serious business, but if taken too seriously, family life can become very tense.  Laughter balances our efforts and gives us a realistic view of things.  To be helpful, family laughter must be positive in nature.  Laughing together builds up a family.  Laughing at each other divides a family.  Families that learn to use laughter in a positive way can release tensions, gain a clearer view, and bond relationships.
  5. Leadership is essential.  Family members, usually the adults, must assume responsibility for leading the family.  If no one accepts this vital role, the family will weaken.  Each family needs its own special set of rules and guidelines.  These rules are based on the family members’ greatest understanding of one another. The guidelines pass along from the adults to the children by example, with firmness and fairness.  Strong families can work together to establish their way of life, allowing children to have a voice in decision making and enforcing rules. However, in the initial stages and in times of crisis, adult family members must get the family to work together.

Angels Walk Among Us

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Abusing a Child

Abusing a Child…

We want to say Thank You to Secret Angel for allowing us to share this post.  But what I really want to say is a Heart Felt THANK YOU!!!! Secret Angel, for caring so much for all Children.  Secret Angel’s Blog is The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel. Stop by and give her your support, you don’t have to say I sent you, read her work then tell her how much we all appreciate her.

Posted on September 4, 2018 by secretangel

Abusing a child…
is something we never want to see…
but it happens often…
in so many a family.

via Abusing a Child…

CA Woman Kidnapped, Trafficked With Child In TX

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Devanshu Gupta, 26

Irving Police Arrest Pair For Alleged
Human Trafficking

IRVING, TX  –  The Irving Police Department is investigating a case of human trafficking that happened during the past few months.  On Sunday, April 15, 2018, officers responded to a call where a victim reported escaping from a prostitution enterprise.

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America Anderson, 20

The victim, a young adult female, was kidnapped from California and brought to a home in the 200 block of Rolston Road against her will.  While there, she was forced into prostitution by two suspects, America Anderson, 20, and Devanshu Gupta, 26.

They would advertise the services on a variety of websites, then take the victim to various local motels to meet with customers.  Also at the home was a second victim, a juvenile female, who was also being held against her will and forced to participate in prostitution.

The responding officers and detectives quickly identified the suspects and took them into custody after seeing them leave the home with the juvenile victim.  Both are currently being held in the Irving City Jail on charges of Trafficking of Persons, Trafficking of Child, Compelling Prostitution ($100,000 bond each charge) and Aggravated Promotion of Prostitution ($50,000 bond).

Advocate Says KY Always At Top In Child Abuse Rate

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Child Abuse awareness event in Kentucky.

Report: Kentucky Child Abuse rate second
highest in the nation

Kentucky’s 2016 child abuse rate — more than double the national average — was the second highest rate in the nation.

Almost 20 of every 1,000 children in the state were abused, according to the “Child Maltreatment 2016” report released recently by the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services’ Children’s Bureau.

The reported didn’t come as a surprise to Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA) of Madison County executive director Victoria Benge, who said Kentucky always is at the top of the nation in child abuse rates.

Benge said child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level.  In most cases, it isn’t one single circumstance that leads to abuse, she said.

Typically, it’s a combination of factors that cause high stress levels in the family, which could include a lack of education, money troubles, or a variety of other stressors.  Drug abuse is a big determinant.

Family court judge for Madison and Clark counties Nora J. Shepherd said drugs are involved in almost every case she handles in family court.

The drug epidemic has drastically increased the case load in family court, Shepherd said.

Continual budget cuts have also put a strain on the system in place to protect children, she added.

Lack of support for social workers has resulted in lots of turnover and, now, state workers including child protection workers are looking at drastic changes to their pensions, leading some to leave.

Funding for Comprehensive Care, which provides counseling services, has been in decline for years, Shepherd said.  People who need mental health services can’t get help.

“It’s probably underpinning our substance abuse issue,” Shepherd said.

When it comes to finding abuse and stopping it, everyone can play a role, Benge said.

In fact, anyone in Kentucky who suspects a child is being abused is required to report it by law.

In cases where people are suspicious but aren’t sure, they should make the call, she said.

“I think you can never be too cautious,” she said.  “You’re better to be safe than sorry.”

Shepherd agreed.

“If you see something, you have to call,” she said.  “You could be part of saving a child’s life.”

Learning the TEN-4 bruising rule can help people identify possible abuse, according to a press release from Norton’s Children’s Hospital.  The rule says that children under 4 should not have bruising on their torso, ears or neck.

It’s also important for people to help stressed parents, maybe by offering to babysit for a while or offering to run an errand, the hospital release states. People can help prevent abuse also by simply de-stressing a situation with a statement such as “I remember when my child acted like that.”

Madison County has a number of organizations working on behalf of children, Benge said.

CASA uses community trained volunteers to advocate on behalf of abused and neglected children within the family court system.  The organization’s main goal, Benge said, is to break the cycle of abuse.

Too often, children in the court system have people coming in and out of their lives.

“It’s so important for these children to have a person who stays with them,” Benge said.

Another Madison County organization that is instrumental in the fight against child abuse and neglect is the Cabinet for Health and Family Services (CHFS).

“They do fantastic work,” Benge said.

The social workers with CHFS investigate claims of abuse and neglect, and make referrals on the best course of action for the affected children.

The county attorney’s office prosecutes those accused of abuse or neglect, Shepherd said.  Madison County assistant county attorney Jubal Miller has worked on family court cases for more than 20 years.  Deputy circuit clerk Debbie Agee also has worked in the court for decades.

The HANDS program through the Madison County Health Department is another resource for families of young children. HANDS is a home visitation program that assists during their child’s first two years of life.  A public health nurse and public health home visitors visit the home to introduce parenting skill development in areas such as recognizing babies’ needs and making the home safe.

Benge urges parents who feel overwhelmed to speak up.

“Just ask for help,” she said.  “The state is very willing to help.”

According to Norton Children’s Hospital, parents on edge should realize it’s OK to step away for a moment and take a few deep breaths, or listen to a favorite song or call a friend.  It’s important to keep a list of friends or family members to call for support.

Kentucky ranked far better in the report in the number of children (15) who died as a result of abuse in 2016; the state ranked 29th in the country.  There were 1,750 deaths nationwide, according to the report.

The state saw a total of 102,990 referrals to child protective services in 2016, according to the report.  About half (50.4 percent) resulted in reports.

In 2017, 509 children in Madison County were abused or neglected, according to CASA.  A pinwheel for each was planted Friday outside the Madison County Courthouse as part of the annual child abuse awareness event put on by CASA and the Department for Community Based Services.  The event is held each year in April, Child Abuse Awareness Month.

To report suspected child abuse in Kentucky, call 877-KY-SAFE1 (877-597-2331).  Reporting can also be done online at https://prdweb.chfs.ky.gov/ReportAbuse/OutofHours.aspx. The national abuse hotline can be reached at 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453).

For more information on the HANDS program, call 859-626-4257.

Child Maltreatment 2016 is the 27th edition of the annual Child Maltreatment report series.  States provide the data for the report through the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS).

Room Below The Basement – Dedicated To Frank

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The LIEBSTER Award

The Blues, A Blessing, and The Liebster Award

I had enough, I’m done, and I turned and walked away.

“What the.. ?  Oh this is real good”, as I looked at the dark hallway, “now they’re sure going to think you’ve lost it.”

“Hee-hee”

“Now I know I didn’t imagine that”, as my eyes searched the hallway, I realized there was a big, heavy door, that was locked and chained only a few feet from me on my right.  I moved as quietly as possible and leaned closer to the door…  something touched me on the right shoulder and as I jerked around, a hand was reaching for my throat!

My eyes bugged out of my head like binoculars and my jaw hurt from  trying to scream;  all the while water was flying all over the bathroom as I was attempting to back-paddle away from the cut-off hand.

Just as I saw the broomstick holding the glove up, I heard Frank’s laughter.

I was sitting straight-up in bed, looking around and wanting to cry, but I couldn’t help but bust out laughing, and shaking my head, “That Frank is in for it when I see him.”

When we were young boys, we never missed an opportunity to scare or surprise the other, or even our friends.  We never missed “Thriller”, “The Twilight Zone”, or any of the long list of scary movies, and the above good memory was after we watched “The Hand”, and Frank caught me in the bathtub.

Needless to say, Frank got my attention and reminded me that I still had an unfinished job to do:  To make this world a better place for all the Children!

So with that said, I dedicate this to Frank.

The Liebster Award

If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster award in which the Rules are simple as follows:

  1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.
  2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  4. Ask them 11 questions.
  5. Let them know you have nominated them.

Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.

What if We all Cared?

Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.

1.  Where were you born?

Sweetwater, Texas

2.  What has been your favorite pet and why?

Dog, because they are so loyal and great companions.

3.  Do you work . . if so, where (being a full-time mommy counts as work btw)?

I am retired, although I work very close to full time or even more at times as a Child Advocate, supporting Veterans, and senior citizens.

4.  If you could go exploring anywhere where would that be?

The Great Barrier Reef

5.  Your biggest regret?

Lynn Klinkscales

6.  How many siblings do you have?  What are your thoughts on that number?

Two, and it is as good a number as any, I had an Uncle and Aunt that had 15 Children.

7.  What decade do you really belong in?

Right where I am at.  I started out with The Killer-Jerry Lee Lewis, Johnny Cash, Elvis, Buddy Holley, Otis Redding, B.B. King, lived through The Beatles, lived with The Rolling Stones(Since they still make music), Jimi Hendrix, Eric Clapton, Ozzy, Ritchie Blackmore, Charlie Daniels, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Social Distortion, Bon Jovi, Rammstein, Slipknot, Brooks and Dunn, Toby Keith, George Strait, Garth Brooks, Dwight Yoakum, Volbeat, etc..

8.  Would you rather live in the Arctic or Antarctic Circle?

If I had to, I would pick the warmer climate, and the one with land to walk on so I could get back to Texas, so The Arctic.

9.  What is your favorite artistic medium?

Tools, Paint, original parts, and custom parts to build War Horses(Ford Mustangs) and HOGs(Harley-Davidsons).  But also woodworking tools, and good wood.

10.  Camping or hotels?

Both, I’m a farm boy and love the out-of-doors, but I also love being around people and the big city at times also.

11.  Favorite school subject?

History

Nominate 11 other bloggers.

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Ask them 11 questions.

1. How many languages can you communicate in writing?

2. Favorite place to visit.

3. How many pets do you have?

4. Who is your hero?

5. Olympics or Professional Sports

6. Name 5 forms of communication.

7. How often do you read a real, printed, hard-bound book.

8. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone and mailed it?

9. What are 33, 45, 78, referring to?

10. How many times have you been in love?

11. What was your greatest victory?

Let them know you have nominated them.