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Room Below The Basement – Dedicated To Frank

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The Blues, A Blessing, and The Liebster Award

I had enough, I’m done, and I turned and walked away.

“What the.. ?  Oh this is real good”, as I looked at the dark hallway, “now they’re sure going to think you’ve lost it.”


“Now I know I didn’t imagine that”, as my eyes searched the hallway, I realized there was a big, heavy door, that was locked and chained only a few feet from me on my right.  I moved as quietly as possible and leaned closer to the door…  something touched me on the right shoulder and as I jerked around, a hand was reaching for my throat!

My eyes bugged out of my head like binoculars and my jaw hurt from  trying to scream;  all the while water was flying all over the bathroom as I was attempting to back-paddle away from the cut-off hand.

Just as I saw the broomstick holding the glove up, I heard Frank’s laughter.

I was sitting straight-up in bed, looking around and wanting to cry, but I couldn’t help but bust out laughing, and shaking my head, “That Frank is in for it when I see him.”

When we were young boys, we never missed an opportunity to scare or surprise the other, or even our friends.  We never missed “Thriller”, “The Twilight Zone”, or any of the long list of scary movies, and the above good memory was after we watched “The Hand”, and Frank caught me in the bathtub.

Needless to say, Frank got my attention and reminded me that I still had an unfinished job to do:  To make this world a better place for all the Children!

So with that said, I dedicate this to Frank.

The Liebster Award

If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster award in which the Rules are simple as follows:

  1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.
  2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  4. Ask them 11 questions.
  5. Let them know you have nominated them.

Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.

What if We all Cared?

Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.

1.  Where were you born?

Sweetwater, Texas

2.  What has been your favorite pet and why?

Dog, because they are so loyal and great companions.

3.  Do you work . . if so, where (being a full-time mommy counts as work btw)?

I am retired, although I work very close to full time or even more at times as a Child Advocate, supporting Veterans, and senior citizens.

4.  If you could go exploring anywhere where would that be?

The Great Barrier Reef

5.  Your biggest regret?

Lynn Klinkscales

6.  How many siblings do you have?  What are your thoughts on that number?

Two, and it is as good a number as any, I had an Uncle and Aunt that had 15 Children.

7.  What decade do you really belong in?

Right where I am at.  I started out with The Killer-Jerry Lee Lewis, Johnny Cash, Elvis, Buddy Holley, Otis Redding, B.B. King, lived through The Beatles, lived with The Rolling Stones(Since they still make music), Jimi Hendrix, Eric Clapton, Ozzy, Ritchie Blackmore, Charlie Daniels, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Social Distortion, Bon Jovi, Rammstein, Slipknot, Brooks and Dunn, Toby Keith, George Strait, Garth Brooks, Dwight Yoakum, Volbeat, etc..

8.  Would you rather live in the Arctic or Antarctic Circle?

If I had to, I would pick the warmer climate, and the one with land to walk on so I could get back to Texas, so The Arctic.

9.  What is your favorite artistic medium?

Tools, Paint, original parts, and custom parts to build War Horses(Ford Mustangs) and HOGs(Harley-Davidsons).  But also woodworking tools, and good wood.

10.  Camping or hotels?

Both, I’m a farm boy and love the out-of-doors, but I also love being around people and the big city at times also.

11.  Favorite school subject?


Nominate 11 other bloggers.

Ask them 11 questions.

1. How many languages can you communicate in writing?

2. Favorite place to visit.

3. How many pets do you have?

4. Who is your hero?

5. Olympics or Professional Sports

6. Name 5 forms of communication.

7. How often do you read a real, printed, hard-bound book.

8. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone and mailed it?

9. What are 33, 45, 78, referring to?

10. How many times have you been in love?

11. What was your greatest victory?

Let them know you have nominated them.

Updates To Safe Sleep Environment For Baby

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Sudden Infant Death Sydrome (SIDS) is a parent’s worst fear.

New recommendations for baby sleeping safety

HOUSTON, TX  –  Sudden Infant Death Sydrome (SIDS) is a parent’s worst fear.

In 2015, the CDC said there were 1,600 infants who died of SIDS in the United States.

Over the past 20 years practices have been learned to lower the number of sudden infant deaths.

However, there are also some new guidelines, in part because of new devices, like high-tech baby monitors hitting the market.

So the American Academy of Pediatrics made some updates to their safe sleep environment recommendations.

Harmony Jurkash had her second child, Jackson, just three months ago, and she believes in safe sleep practices.

“We are definitely a proponent of crib sleeping, on the back,” says Jurkash.
She keeps the crib empty.  No toys, no blankets, no bumpers, and that’s exactly how baby Jackson should sleep, says Dr. Rita Muthappa, the NICU Medical Director at Memorial Hermann Memorial City and Katy.

“The baby should sleep alone on a firm mattress,” says Dr. Muthappa.

Jurkash also uses a baby monitor to check on her son.

“It allows a safety net as far as always keeping an eye on the baby, but yet you can keep a distance from you and the baby so they can rest and you can relax,” explains Jurkash.

But these days, there are also high-tech monitors that actually monitor a baby’s vital signs, something that Dr. Muthappa says the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend.

“We know these baby monitors are not regulated, the safety has not been studied, and they do more harm than good for the baby and parents,” explains Dr. Muthappa.

That’s because false alarms on the devices often alarm parents. Now, a product with studies and statistics behind it is the Baby Box.

“I found it really interesting.  I’m going to put my baby in a box.  I don’t know how it’s going to sound!” says Jurkash.

The Baby Box was created in Finland in the 1930s, and each new mom goes home with one.  Finland has the lowest infant mortality rate.

“They reduce infant mortality tremendously.  They are very common in Europe and countries.  They are less expensive and as safe as using a bassinet or crib,” says Dr. Muthappa.

The Baby Box is now available here in the US.

Finally, another new guideline Dr. Muthappa discusses with new parents is how long a baby should sleep in the parents’ room.

“We talk about keeping the baby in the room for up to six months to a year,” says Dr. Muthappa.

And that’s just a little too long for Jurkash.

“In our experience, it’s worked for us to keep them in their crib in a separate room.  It makes complete sense that neither the parents nor the baby will get a restful night’s sleep if they’re in the same room,” says Jurkash.

Swaddling does not prevent SIDS, and Dr. Muthappa says tight swaddling is not recommended because infants need to be able to move their hips.  Also, pacifiers are now recommended as a part of safe sleeping.

Vets And Service Dogs On No Fly List????

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Lisa McCombs with service dog Jake by her side.

Veteran sues American Airlines for refusing
service dog

Lisa McCombs arrived at a Kansas airport on a Sunday to catch a flight back home to Mississippi after a day trip.  She says she was sitting in a public waiting area with service dog Jake by her side when an American Airlines employee approached her.

“Ummmm, are you trying to fly with that?”  McCombs says the woman told her as she nodded at the Labrador retriever.

It was the beginning of what McCombs described as an “emotionally scarring ordeal” that continued during a layover at DFW International Airport, according to a federal suit against American Airlines filed last week.

McCombs told a court that she joined the Army in 2005 and served tours in Iraq and Afghanistan that left her with a post-traumatic stress disorder diagnosis.  Jake is a certified service dog that has been individually trained to move his body in close contact with McCombs to distract her when he senses that she’s experiencing a panic attack or high anxiety, according to her complaint.

The Mississippi resident said in the court filing that she had flown into Kansas with Jake without incident the morning of Oct. 25, 2015, but that airline staff then proceeded to block her from flying out with her service dog two days in a row despite her documentation.

American Airlines spokesman Matt Miller declined to comment on McCombs’ allegations or say whether the airline would challenge her in court.

“We appreciate and thank Ms. McCombs for her service to our country,” Miller said Sunday, noting that the airline’s policy regarding service animals is in keeping with applicable laws.

But McCombs claims that American Airlines didn’t follow its own rules when it came to Jake.

According to the suit, the airline required one of the following to prove service dog status: an animal ID card, a harness or tags, written documentation or credible verbal assurance.

McCombs told a federal court that her dog was harnessed and wearing a vest identifying him as a service animal.

The American Airlines employee who had nodded at McCombs’ dog asked for her ID and then returned to tell her she couldn’t fly with Jake, according to the complaint.  When McCombs protested, the employee told McCombs to talk to her supervisor, who allegedly told the veteran there was no documentation in the system and that he was canceling her flight.

McCombs described getting conflicting information from American Airlines representatives on the phone.  She claims a woman told her that she could board her flight with Jake if she printed her documentation and showed it to the agents.  But, McCombs says, another representative told her she had to pay $125 to fly Jake as cargo or submit documentation and wait two days for another flight.

According to the suit, McCombs started crying when the agents at the airport loudly demanded to know McCombs’ disability and what service the dog provided.

“I have PTSD, look at me, I’m an anxious mess!” she says she told them.  “He’s my service dog!”

McCombs says in her suit that she pulled up Jake’s documentation on her laptop but airline staff wouldn’t budge.  When she cursed in frustration, she says one of the agents threatened to have her arrested.  She described being “kicked out” of the airport by an agent and that a police officer even offered to drive her to a shelter.

Although the veteran had been booked for another flight two days later, she says in her court filing that she called the airline to arrange an earlier flight and was told there would be no trouble with Jake.

The day after the first incident, McCombs returned to Manhattan Regional Airport in Kansas, where she once more met resistance from American Airlines staff, according to the complaint.  A manager who demanded paperwork later approached McCombs with “malice,” causing Jake to whine and shift, the veteran claims.

“It is against the law to harass a service animal and their handler and I will call the police on you,” McCombs says she told the manager, who allegedly chuckled and walked away.

The woman says in her complaint that Jake was denied again because a letter from her doctor wasn’t dated and because his certification had to be within the previous year.  After leaving the airport, McCombs says she spoke on the phone with another airline representative, who told her Jake was listed as an emotional support dog, not a service dog. (Emotional support animals don’t qualify as service animals under federal law.  American Airlines requires documentation for the former.)

McCombs canceled her American Airlines flight and contacted another airline to fly out of a different city in Kansas.  She rented a car to get there, but an American Airlines representative called her to arrange a third flight and assured her there would be no problem with Jake, according to the suit.

At the Manhattan airport, she was able to board a plane with Jake two days after the original flight, the complaint reads.

But when McCombs arrived at DFW Airport, she says she was met with “an entourage” of American Airlines staff pushing a wheelchair and loudly calling out, “We are looking for a Lisa McCombs, a disabled veteran.”

“This group of representatives insisted on escorting Ms. McCombs and Jake to the dog relief area and to their next gate, making a spectacle of Ms. McCombs and causing unnecessary attention and embarrassment even though Ms. McCombs repeatedly assured them that she and Jake could manage without their assistance,” the lawsuit reads.

Miller, the airline spokesman, said an American Airlines captain who is also an Army veteran reached out to McCombs after her flights to get more information about what had happened.

McCombs described this interaction in her complaint, alleging that military and veteran initiatives manager Jim Palmersheim had acknowledged to her that the airline was embarrassed by the situation.  The woman alleges that Palmersheim said the company would make things right and offered her international, first-class tickets plus an invitation to a “salute the troops” event in Las Vegas hosted by the airline.

“Our airline really sucked when it came your experience,” McCombs says Palmersheim told her.

McCombs didn’t specify an amount in damages but wants the airline to pay compensation for emotional distress, refund her tickets with interest and cover all past and “reasonable” future medical expenses to treat her PTSD.

Alabama CPS: No Respect For Laws Or Families

Mother and Her Child Subjected To
Inhuman Treatment

Alabama CPS is supposed to care about the welfare of Children.

These people ignored the well-being of this Mother and her new-born Child, and left little doubt that Mother and her Child were seriously traumatized.

It has been well proven and documented that Children subjected to violence and trauma are adversely affected to the point to where chances of normal growth and functions of the brain are altered.

Everyone knows how easily newborns are scared and stressed.

In effect, Alabama CPS have made themselves liable, and most probably for the life of this Dear Child, while illegally stealing this Young Mother’s Child.  THIS WAS KIDNAPPING!!!!

We are going to post one video here, and then I am going to link to Medical Kidnap for the full story.

Alabama CPS (DHR) Steals Baby from Rape Victim


Anger Management – When To Seek Help

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Anger Management –
When To Seek Help

When to seek help for anger management and control

If your anger is still spiraling out of control, despite putting the previous anger management techniques into practice, or if you’re getting into trouble with the law or hurting others—you need more help. There are many therapists, classes, and programs for people with anger management problems. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. You’ll often find others in the same shoes, and getting direct feedback on techniques for controlling anger can be tremendously helpful.

Consider professional help if:

  • You feel constantly frustrated and angry no matter what you try.
  • Your temper causes problems at work or in your relationships.
  • You avoid new events and people because you feel like you can’t control your temper.
  • You have gotten in trouble with the law due to your anger.Your anger has ever led to physical violence.
  • Your anger has ever led to physical violence.

Therapy for anger problems.  Therapy can be a great way to explore the reasons behind your anger.  If you don’t know why you are getting angry, it’s very hard to control.  Therapy provides a safe environment to learn more about your reasons and identify triggers for your anger.  It’s also a safe place to practice new skills in expressing your anger.

Anger management classes or groups.  Anger management classes or groups allow you to see others coping with the same struggles. You will also learn tips and techniques for managing your anger and hear other people’s stories.  For domestic violence issues, traditional anger management is usually not recommended.  There are special classes that go to the issue of power and control that are at the heart of domestic violence.

If your loved one has an anger management problem

If your loved one has an anger problem, you probably feel like you’re walking on eggshells all the time.  But always remember that you are not to blame for your loved one’s anger.  There is never an excuse for physically or verbally abusive behavior.  You have a right to be treated with respect and to live without fear of an angry outburst or a violent rage.

Tips for dealing with a loved one’s anger management problem

While you can’t control another person’s anger, you can control how you respond to it:

  • Set clear boundaries about what you will and will not tolerate.
  • Wait for a time when you are both calm to talk to your loved one about the anger problem.  Don’t bring it up when either one of you is already angry.
  • Remove yourself from the situation if your loved one does not calm down.
  • Consider counseling or therapy for yourself if you are having a hard time standing up for yourself.
  • Put your safety first.  Trust your instincts.  If you feel unsafe or threatened in any way, get away from your loved one and go somewhere safe.

Anger isn’t the real problem in abusive relationships

Despite what many people believe, domestic violence and abuse is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his behavior and temper.  In fact, abusive behavior is a deliberate choice for the sole purpose of controlling you.  If you are in an abusive relationship, know that couples counseling is not recommended—and that your partner needs specialized treatment, not regular anger management classes.