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Your Child Needs You – Pt 1

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How you raise your Child could mean the difference in Life or Death

Why Quality Time Needs to Be a Priority

I am going to attempt to reach out to all Parents with this, although we want to draw young couples and young parents-to-be to Our Sites, where they can better prepare to be the Parents their Child needs.

No matter what kind of Parent you are, there is one thing you will never teach your Child.

The first, and most important thing a Child should “FEEL” is LOVE.  I believe that when a Child is born, it is possible to be ahead.  But let’s start from the beginning, and just so everyone knows, it is possible to, up to a point, to look at your wife and Child and say “I am so very sorry , PLEASE, I love you both, but I have wronged you both”. ( If this is the wife, just change the words to read accordingly).

You should love your significant other as much as you love yourself, and you should be an honest person already, if not how can you even think of doing your significant other and family-to-be like this????

The same goes for violence toward your significant other and a family????


While we are here, you and this young Lady( even if you are joining in on this as seasoned Parents) are forming a TEAM, and contrary to what anyone says, there is no master or slave.

Learn to open up and talk, but be totally honest, and at this point you never, never, never, ever betray the trust in which you told each other your deepest…  and dreams.

But now is the time to train yourselves to talk softly, and you both might as well get rid of the dirty habits: chewing tobacco… OK, what is it?  No, No, not you just the Mother-to-be, since it is her job to deal with your young football player 24 hours a day for 11 years….  OF Course I MEAN YOU TOO, new Mothers have depression, and it is the Father’s responsibility to deal with their Child as much as possible.

The other member of your Team will need a time just to herself, and this is not just her naptime, that does not count.

Now back to stopping things an innocent Child should not know: tobacco, cussing, arguing, fighting, alcohol, drugs(all 3 kinds, illicit, over-the-counter, and prescription, and that goes for the fake over-the-counter synthetic drugs), pornography, loud music, and junk television.

Next the Team will need to start early and get you a child-proofing-the-house list going, along with Emergency plans for various possibilities.

OK, when your Teammate conceives, it will be time to start talking softly to this bundle of joy while lightly rubbing and touching this “bump” as your Child grows.  You can sing softly, and read to this soon-to-be addition to the Team.

It will be a really good time to prepare yourselves, so read-up on facts like bonding to Mom and Dad, Newborns get scared very easily, and most particularly uncontrollable crying, which is Purple Face or Blue Face(it was called when my oldest taught me the hard way what this thing is that far too many end up hurting their Child for life by Shaken Baby Syndrome.

Last but not least, the things you DO NOT DO AT ALL, EVEN ONE(1) TIME!!!!

You never discipline a Child when you are angry.  You NEVER talk MEAN to them, NEVER criticize them, if they are having trouble with homework, you help them, and if you can’t do the problems just imagine what this dear Child feels like in front of his peers.

OH, now it is time for you and your Teammate to start practicing Quality Time.

You can NOT teach your Child LOVE, it is a feeling, a felt thing.  But you will begin as a smiling, long-suffering Parent, teaching your Child the basic qualities necessary to be a Good Family Member, Good Friend, Good Pupil, Good Citizen, Good Employee, Good Soldier, Good Boss, and a Good Civil Servant, by teaching Truth, Honor, Respect while being Respected, Duty, and Responsibility(which, by 18-years-of-age, will be Responsibility For One’s Own Actions).

This Child must be protected by you and your teammate for 18 years.

Updates To Safe Sleep Environment For Baby

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Sudden Infant Death Sydrome (SIDS) is a parent’s worst fear.

New recommendations for baby sleeping safety

HOUSTON, TX  –  Sudden Infant Death Sydrome (SIDS) is a parent’s worst fear.

In 2015, the CDC said there were 1,600 infants who died of SIDS in the United States.

Over the past 20 years practices have been learned to lower the number of sudden infant deaths.

However, there are also some new guidelines, in part because of new devices, like high-tech baby monitors hitting the market.

So the American Academy of Pediatrics made some updates to their safe sleep environment recommendations.

Harmony Jurkash had her second child, Jackson, just three months ago, and she believes in safe sleep practices.

“We are definitely a proponent of crib sleeping, on the back,” says Jurkash.
She keeps the crib empty.  No toys, no blankets, no bumpers, and that’s exactly how baby Jackson should sleep, says Dr. Rita Muthappa, the NICU Medical Director at Memorial Hermann Memorial City and Katy.

“The baby should sleep alone on a firm mattress,” says Dr. Muthappa.

Jurkash also uses a baby monitor to check on her son.

“It allows a safety net as far as always keeping an eye on the baby, but yet you can keep a distance from you and the baby so they can rest and you can relax,” explains Jurkash.

But these days, there are also high-tech monitors that actually monitor a baby’s vital signs, something that Dr. Muthappa says the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend.

“We know these baby monitors are not regulated, the safety has not been studied, and they do more harm than good for the baby and parents,” explains Dr. Muthappa.

That’s because false alarms on the devices often alarm parents. Now, a product with studies and statistics behind it is the Baby Box.

“I found it really interesting.  I’m going to put my baby in a box.  I don’t know how it’s going to sound!” says Jurkash.

The Baby Box was created in Finland in the 1930s, and each new mom goes home with one.  Finland has the lowest infant mortality rate.

“They reduce infant mortality tremendously.  They are very common in Europe and countries.  They are less expensive and as safe as using a bassinet or crib,” says Dr. Muthappa.

The Baby Box is now available here in the US.

Finally, another new guideline Dr. Muthappa discusses with new parents is how long a baby should sleep in the parents’ room.

“We talk about keeping the baby in the room for up to six months to a year,” says Dr. Muthappa.

And that’s just a little too long for Jurkash.

“In our experience, it’s worked for us to keep them in their crib in a separate room.  It makes complete sense that neither the parents nor the baby will get a restful night’s sleep if they’re in the same room,” says Jurkash.

Swaddling does not prevent SIDS, and Dr. Muthappa says tight swaddling is not recommended because infants need to be able to move their hips.  Also, pacifiers are now recommended as a part of safe sleeping.