Tag Archives: Values

The Empty Chair At The Table

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Arlington National Cemetery, where so many are buried that gave their lives for Our Country.

We will never forget

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In the U.S., people wear the red poppy on Memorial Day to honor those who died trying to protect Our Country.

This is for all those that answered the Call of Duty for Our Great Country, America the Beautiful, the Home of the Brave and the Free, who gave all and didn’t get the chance to bring up their children, or grow old with their spouses, or have careers.

The flag shouldn’t stay at half-staff all day

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Today we honor the many people that have given their lives defending Our Country.

Federal guidelines say the flag should be displayed at half-staff only until noon, then go up to full-staff until sundown.

A Strong Successful Family

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Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.

Building & Maintaining A Good Family

Building a Good Family

There are basic qualities and values needed to have and maintain a good family.   These qualities and values are:

  • Love
  • Honor, always truth and loyalty
  • Mutual Respect
  • Kindness
  • Communication
  • Consideration
  • Duty
  • Responsibility

The Future of this world

Children are the future of this world.  As a good parent it is your responsibility to teach your children from birth, the above qualities and values, as these are handed down from generation-to-generation, and prepares them to be good family members, good friends, good neighbors, good employees, good leaders, and good citizens.

Good caring parents teach by example, always remembering that genuine praise, guidance, and understanding are the mark of a good parent.  As your child grows, regular family quality time strengthens trust and mutual respect, forging a stronger family bond, where communication grows easier, and good memories are more easily made.

Maintaining A Good Family

The five “L’s” of a good, strong, family:

  1. Love is at the heart of the family.  All humans have the need to love and to be loved; the family is normally the place where love is expressed.  Love is the close personal blending of physical and mental togetherness.  It includes privacy, intimacy, sharing, belonging, and caring.  The atmosphere of real love is one of honesty, understanding, patience, and forgiveness.  Such love does not happen automatically; it requires constant daily effort by each family member.  Loving families share activities and express a great deal of gratitude for one another. Love takes time, affection, and a positive attitude.
  2. Learning – Families are where we learn values, skills, and behavior.  Strong families manage and control their learning experiences.  They establish a pattern of home life.  They select appropriate television programs.  They guide their children into the world outside the home.  They do not let social forces rule their family life.  They involve themselves in neighborhood, school, government, church, and business in ways that support their family values.  Strong families teach by example and learn through experience as they explain and execute their values.
  3. Loyalty – Strong families have a sense of loyalty and devotion toward family members.  The family sticks together.  They stand by each other during times of trouble.  They stand up for each other when attacked by someone outside the family.  Loyalty builds through sickness and health, want and good fortune, failure and success, and all the things the family faces.  The family is a place of shelter for individual family members.  In times of personal success or defeat, the family becomes a cheering section or a mourning bench.  They also learn a sense of give and take in the family, which helps prepare them for the necessary negotiations in other relationships.
  4. Laughter is good family medicine.  Humor is an escape valve for family tension. Through laughter we learn to see ourselves honestly and objectively.  Building a strong family is serious business, but if taken too seriously, family life can become very tense.  Laughter balances our efforts and gives us a realistic view of things.  To be helpful, family laughter must be positive in nature.  Laughing together builds up a family.  Laughing at each other divides a family.  Families that learn to use laughter in a positive way can release tensions, gain a clearer view, and bond relationships.
  5. Leadership is essential.  Family members, usually the adults, must assume responsibility for leading the family.  If no one accepts this vital role, the family will weaken.  Each family needs its own special set of rules and guidelines.  These rules are based on the family members’ greatest understanding of one another. The guidelines pass along from the adults to the children by example, with firmness and fairness.  Strong families can work together to establish their way of life, allowing children to have a voice in decision making and enforcing rules. However, in the initial stages and in times of crisis, adult family members must get the family to work together.

One Reason The Clergy Thrown Under The Bus

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Gabriel Valadez has pleaded not guilty after being charged with grooming and sexually abusing a girl for several years.

State was notified of Child Abuse
allegations more than a year before
Waukegan school employee’s arrest

CHICAGO, IL  –  More than a year before a Waukegan school employee was charged with sexually abusing a girl for years, state education authorities were notified that he was fired by Chicago Public Schools on allegations of “child abuse,” records obtained by the Lake County News-Sun show.

Gabriel Valadez, 26, of Darien, was hired by Waukegan District 60 in August 2017, six months after he was suspended by Chicago Public Schools, where he was a special education classroom assistant.  He was fired from CPS in December 2017 after his suspension the previous February.

A letter obtained from Chicago Public Schools shows the Illinois State Board of Education was notified of his termination the following month, in January 2018.  A spokeswoman for the state agency said she could not comment on specific cases, but ISBE records show Valadez’s paraprofessional educators license remains valid.

Defense attorney John Deleon, who is representing Valadez, declined to comment due to the pending charges.  He said his client also would not comment.

An internal Chicago Public Schools memo summarizing Valadez’s 2017 termination hearing concluded that he “exhibited all the classic signs of child grooming behavior,” which occurs when an adult attempts to gain the trust of the child, looks for opportunities to be alone with the child and gives gifts or money to the child.

Valadez, who pleaded not guilty earlier this month, was arrested Feb. 19 at Waukegan District 60’s administrative offices by Chicago police officers and charged with grooming and sexually abusing a girl for several years, when she was between the ages of 9 and 13, according to court records.

He is accused of taking the girl’s hand and having her touch him, of groping her bottom and of asking her to send sexually explicit and nude photographs of herself, according to preliminary complaints filed in Cook County court.

Waukegan District 60 has “not received any official communication” from either Chicago Public Schools or the Illinois State Board of Education regarding Valadez and his time at CPS, district spokesman Nick Alajakis said.

A bill approved by the Illinois House and awaiting action in the Illinois Senate would give the State Board of Education the ability to suspend the licenses of educators under investigation, a change that might have helped Waukegan District 60 learn about Valadez’s history sooner.

The investigation

Valadez joined Chicago Public Schools in May 2014 in office support for the district’s Network 7, according to personnel records obtained from CPS.

Seven months later, in December 2014, he took a job as a special education classroom assistant at Infinity Math, Science and Tech High School in Chicago’s South Lawndale neighborhood, according to personnel records.  A year later, he moved to Jungman Elementary School.

It was at Jungman that questions arose about Valadez’s contact with a student.

Valadez was suspended Feb. 16, 2017, after giving a student a chocolate Valentine’s Day present despite being warned verbally and in writing to have no contact with that student, according to a letter from Chicago Public Schools to Valadez.

Valadez was never the student’s teacher, he told an investigator.  He said during the 2016-17 school year, one of his assignments included taking another student from one classroom to the science lab, where the girl was also assigned during that period.

Valadez was told not to contact the student following a March 2016 incident where he was speaking to the student outside someone’s house after school until the father came home, according to a November 2017 internal memo.

According to the report, Valadez had been reminded of the no-contact order in September 2016 after staff members saw him playing basketball with the student after school hours.  Valadez denied that he had played basketball with the student.

Valadez told Jungman’s principal that he thought it was OK to give the student the chocolates because two other adults were present at the time, according to a redacted copy of the investigative report.  The principal said Valadez told her he had been asked by another special education classroom aide to bring the chocolates for the student.

The other employee told the investigator that she never told Valadez to get chocolates for the students, according to the report.

Valadez later told an investigator that he had brought chocolates and red roses to give to staff, and decided to give the chocolates to the student after he realized he had some left over, according to the report.  He said the student had followed him into the classroom and he gave the student the chocolates and told her, “Get outta here.”

The student told the investigator that she did not know Valadez was not supposed to talk to her, according to the report.  The student said she would often speak to Valadez before and after school, at least once a week, which Valadez denied when interviewed by the investigator.

A union representative who testified on Valadez’s behalf at his termination hearing denied Valadez was engaged in grooming behavior, and said Valadez did not communicate with the student through social media or text messaging.

According to an internal memo, Valadez did not testify at the hearing.

Valadez had previously been investigated in 2015 for alleging staring at student-athletes during practice and making them uncomfortable, for making an inappropriate comment to a former student, and for staring at a student who was in detention, according to the investigative report.

The investigator, who spoke to the students involved as well as staff, found none of the allegations were supported by evidence, according to the report.

Termination and notification

  Following the Feb. 16, 2017, suspension by Chicago Public Schools, Valadez was sometimes paid and sometimes unpaid throughout the course of an investigation and subsequent proceedings, CPS records show.

He was fired in December 2017 and placed on the district’s do-not-hire list, according to a letter from the district to Valadez.

A month later, Chicago Public Schools sent a letter to the Illinois State Board of Education, notifying the agency it had “reasonable cause” to believe he had been fired after “committing an intentional act of child abuse.”

By this time, Valadez had already been hired by Waukegan District 60 as an administrative assistant at its district offices, records show.  Valadez resigned in February, the week after his arrest.

His application with Waukegan, submitted in July 2017, said he was still employed by Chicago Public Schools and had never been fired, which was all true at that point. On a form completed in August, he denied that he had ever been investigated for misconduct, which was not true.

Valadez wasn’t the district’s first pick, according to text messages sent by Superintendent Theresa Plascencia to a school board member following Valadez’s arrest.  Three other applicants, including an internal candidate, received offers but declined the job.

Plascencia did know Valadez from her time at CPS, but she was not involved in his hiring at Waukegan, Alajakis said.

Plascencia was the chief of Network 7 from November 2013 to August 2015 when she took a new role with CPS as executive director for high school design, programs and support.  She left CPS in April 2016 prior to the start of the internal investigation into Valadez’s conduct at Jungman.

Notifications like Chicago Public Schools’ letter to ISBE, which are required under state law, can trigger an investigation by the Illinois State Board of Education and ultimately the suspension or revocation of an educator’s license, ISBE spokeswoman Jackie Matthews said.

Matthews, who declined to comment on any particular case, said there is no way to predict how long any single case will take to resolve because each comes with its own set of circumstances.

Valadez still had an active paraprofessional educator license as of Friday, Illinois State Board of Education records show.

ISBE will hold off on an investigation, for example, if the police or Department of Child and Family Services are conducting their own investigations, Matthews said. The amount of time it takes for those investigations and criminal proceedings to conclude “varies significantly.”

That means an educator’s license can remain valid and, if they’ve since moved on to another district, no one there may know they’re under investigation.

ISBE does not have the ability to suspend educators’ licenses while they are being investigated for serious alleged crimes involving physical and sexual abuse, though it would want that authority, ISBE’s general counsel, Stephanie Jones, testified before the General Assembly last year.

A bill that would give ISBE that power passed the Illinois Senate in a 57-0 vote April 11.  It is now being considered by the House.

Timeline

May 2014: Gabriel Valadez joins Chicago Public Schools in Network 7 office support.

December 2014: Valadez takes a special education classroom assistant position at Infinity Math, Science and Tech High School.

December 2015: Valadez moves to Jungman Elementary School.

March 2016: Valadez told to have no contact with a student at Jungman.

February 2017: Valadez was suspended after giving Valentine’s Day chocolates to the student with whom he had been ordered to have no contact.

August 2017: Valadez is hired at Waukegan District 60 as an administrative assistant at its district offices.

December 2017: Valadez is fired from Chicago Public Schools.

January 2018: Chicago Public Schools notifies the Illinois State Board of Education that it fired Valadez over allegations of child abuse.

February 2019: Valadez is arrested at Waukegan District 60’s administrative office on charges of child sexual abuse and grooming.  He voluntarily resigns the following week.

Warning: Houston Too Liberal For Children

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“Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence” outside of a Drag Queen Story Time

Activists Expose Second Drag Queen
Story Time Child Sex Offender

Houston, TX  –  The Drag Queen story times are nothing more than an avenue to get your children.  In fact, one of their own said the very same thing.

Now, a report out indicates that a man who dresses as a woman and reads storybooks to children in the Houston Public Library during Drag Queen story time is actually a convicted child sex offender.

First, Dylan Pontiff, a self-professed sodomite and drag queen, stated, “This is going to be the grooming of the next generation.  We are trying to groom the next generation.”

Well, indeed, they are doing it and parents are virtually silent and so is the city that elected a lesbian mayor, who tried to force bathroom bills on the public that put everyone at risk.

According to MassResistance, an organization that outs sodomite behavior across the nation and take it head on, another sodomite drag queen has been unmasked for the child sex offender he is.

Houston MassResistance unmasks another Child Sex Offender at Drag Queen Story Time, a drag performer with many aliases (who) has sexually assaulted children and publicly recounted his history as a transgender dominatrix and prostitute for hire. Janet Mefferd tweeted.

Houston MassResistance Unmasks Another Child Sex Offender at Drag Queen Story Time, “a drag performer with many aliases (who) has sexually assaulted children and publicly recounted his history as a transgender dominatrix and prostitute for hire.”  https://t.co/oItecyNVOh
— Janet Mefferd (@JanetMefferd) April 6, 2019

“We have another big reveal today at our press conference which will take place at 2 PM at the Freed Montrose Library,” local MassResistance leader Tracy Shannon announced in an email.  “Due to this individual using multiple aliases and having moved around a lot it was hard to nail down his identity but we finally connected the dots.  We found his name a few days ago but trying to find some affirmation and photos was like looking for a needle in a haystack of social media postings.”

“Once we affirmed the identity we ran background checks and found the record.  We will reveal all at 2 PM Central time at our press conference,” she added.

She didn’t let the Houston Public Library off the hook either. Blasting them in a conference, Shannon said, “MassResistance will demand an audit of the entire HPL background checks vs volunteer applications to see how many have experienced an ‘oversight’ and how many sex offenders have been allowed to participate in children’s programming at the libraries in Houston.  We will also be demanding a city ordinance that requires background checks for all city-sanctioned programs for children when we have our press conference.”

PJ Media reported:

Shannon sent PJ Media the research document outlining how MassResistance uncovered this second alleged sex offender.

She connected the man to an article at About Online recalling experiences in “sex work” as a “professional dominatrix.”  At the beginning, the anonymous author admitted, “I had tried for so many years to alleviate my depression and dysphoria through random sex, I had lost track of how many partners I’ve had.”  This eased the transition from “sex work” to becoming a transgender prostitute and porn actor.

Shannon also connected the man to the Instagram account of Liza Lott, and to the group Space City Sisters/Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.  Instagram posts allegedly show this man posing with other Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, guiding children “past hate groups to Drag Queen Story Time.”

It appears the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are a transgender anti-Catholic group, mocking Roman Catholic nuns by dressing in habits but living by a sexually licentious standard — the exact opposite of true nuns.

MassResistance uncovered an online record purporting to be his.  PJ Media reached out to the Harris County clerk for corroboration, but since the man was 16 at the time of his conviction, his juvenile record has been sealed.

The organizers of Drag Queen Story Time said they provided the HPL legal department ” a comprehensive list of every guest performer, every book read, and every song sung” around October 2018.  Yet this man escorted children to the Drag Queen Story Time in late October.

“The malfeasance by the legal department, library staff, Mayor Turner, Rhea Lawson and city council members who are close to and protecting this program from scrutiny is appalling,” Tracy Shannon told PJ Media.  “In January, we gave city council and the mayor an expose that was over 160 pages.  Our expose is now over 600 pages on this program and we are not even done.”

“We still do not have all documents requested by this ‘transparent’ administration and the library and we are submitting more FOIA requests based on the uncovering of more negligence and malfeasance,” she added.

This is MassResistance’s second bust in the drag queen story time criminal activity.

Back in March, the group revealed that 32-year-old Alberto Garza, who goes by the stage name Tatiana Mala-Niña, was convicted in 2008 for sexually assaulting an 8-year-old boy.

“If they had done their job and due diligence, they might have said wait — maybe it’s not a good idea to have a sex offender who at 200 pounds and 5-foot-11 assaulted an 8-year-old boy,” Tracy Shannon, a leader of the Houston chapter of MassResistance, told reporters on Friday.

Local media seemed stunned in their reporting that such a thing could even happen. This shows you how clueless…. or complicit they are in all of this.

While the library issued an apology and pledged that “this participant will not be involved in any future HPL programs,” they meant it solely to cover their own backsides.

“In our review of our process and of this participant, we discovered that we failed to complete a background check as required by our own guidelines,” the library statement read.  We deeply regret this oversight and the concern this may cause our customers.  We realize this is a serious matter.”

No, that is not what occurred.  I’ll guarantee you no background check was conducted at all on these people.  They merely got caught selling your children out.

Furthermore, what in God’s name are you parents in Houston doing?  It doesn’t appear you are doing enough to not only stand up for your own kids but the kids of your community to call out the people practicing an abomination in your city.

It’s time that parents across the country band together against the sodomites, the corrupt government and the perverted criminals that are targeting your children before it is ultimately too late.  There is no way this is only going on in Houston, Texas.

NM Wants Tougher Child Abuse Laws

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Child Abuse Advocates believe tougher laws would be a better deterrent.

Advocates organize March Against
Child Abuse

ALBUQUERQUE, NM  –  A child that died on Tuesday had not even seen their first birthday.  The person who reported the death claimed the baby drowned, according to the Albuquerque Police Department.

They have not yet said how the baby died, but that the circumstances are suspicious.

The community is hurting — wanting to know exactly what happened or if someone is to blame.  That will all come out in the investigation, according to APD.

As police continue to investigate, the community is coming together to say enough is enough.

“Burying a child is the worst nightmare anyone can go through and then at the hands of a parent, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever the case may be, it’s a nightmare,” said Veronica Rael-Garcia, an advocate whose daughter was killed in a road rage shooting.

Rael-Garcia knows that hole left behind after a child dies.  Her daughter, Lilly, was killed in a road rage shooting when she was just four.  It was a case that shook the community.

“The community is upset, they’re scared, they want answers,” said Crystal Gutierrez-Baca, an advocate with New Mexicans Against Child Abuse.  “So now more than ever we need the community to join us.”

Crystal Gutierrez-Baca is teaming up with Rael-Garcia to be the voice for those children.  The goal is that other people and leaders from around our state start making a change.

“There should be programs out there in the city and the state so that if somebody feels overwhelmed they’re able to reach out,” said Rael-Garcia.  “I wholeheartedly believe if we had tougher laws that may be something that does deter it.  Who knows?”

Gutierrez-Baca and Rael-Garcia said the conversation needs to start now.  In recognition of Child Abuse Awareness Month, they’re putting together the third annual March Against Child Abuse this Saturday.  It will be at the Bataan Memorial Park from noon to 3 p.m.